Over the past year and a half I’ve had people ask if Fatherhood has changed me…
Well, there’s a couple of ways to look at it… I mean there’s the obvious. There are a couple of dudes there using up space, the hot water, eating the food, changing the T.V. channel, and making my messes even worse… So sure, life is a bit different. But, I think before I was a father, it wasn’t like I couldn’t keep a job, I wasn’t out multiple nights a week, I didn’t really drink much, didn’t smoke, didn’t do drugs (not counting allergy medicine!) so, in that respect, it wasn’t like I had to change my habits… I can’t think of any of my views that have changed… I’m just as goofy, with the same cerebral and sometimes remedial sense of humor. (meaning no one gets my jokes unless you’re into the same nerdy stuff I’m into or you’re a 5 year old!) Plus, now I have more stories to tell! I honestly think I’m the same guy, I just happen to be a father as well.
Let me just say, that fatherhood is the craziest, weirdest, creepiest, most patience tempting, and the most amazing thing that’s ever happened to me. Every day there’s new discoveries. You see things that you ordinarily wouldn’t give a second thought as the coolest things ever. There are milestones, but I think everyone remembers them differently. First steps and first words are always cool, but there were different things that struck me, like certain gestures, a certain look, or a moment where I knew there was a connection or I knew we understood each other.
My father was a bit “old school” and I’m kind of like him in a lot of ways… some good, some I need to work on. But the one thing I’ll always be thankful for is the love of music he passed on to me. Thinking back, he NEVER pushed it on me. But he did support everything I did musically. He’s the kind of music lover who could hear almost anything and find something cool about it. I want to pass this on to my sons. I want them to see the sheer joy it brings me to play music. I want them to know that they are now my inspiration for playing music. I want them to find the same joy. Even if it isn’t music, I want them to find something inside of themselves that they can use to express themselves and share.
Am I the greatest father in the world? It’s highly doubtful, in fact I don’t even know what that means, but I know every day I try to be a good example for them. Not just for work ethic, manners, and responsibility, but I want to teach them to be happy.
So, has fatherhood changed me? Na… I don’t think so, but if you really want to know, I suppose you’d have to ask the people around me, but I don’t see it! Hahaha!
Happy Father’s Day!